Thursday, January 17, 2019

Removing Fear from Our Lives


We are told to be bold. We are to be strong. We are to be courageous. Why? Because if God is for us who can be against us?


One of the trickiest weapons the enemy uses against us is fear.

There are times when I have been crippled by fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of success. Fear of failure. Fear of not fitting in. Fear of not measuring up. Fear of hypocrisy. Fear of being a poor husband, father, or son.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where fear overtakes our lives. Think about the number of news stories, television programs, movie and novels in which people cannot act (or act inappropriately) due to fear. Maybe you recognize it in your church members, your neighbors, your family members, or yourself.

We know we are in a war between good and evil. The enemy uses the fear tool to win many a battle. It's probably not hip to say this in an age where the anti-hero reigns supreme. Our screenwriters and authors create flawed characters. We are told to admire them flaws and all. The Bible, however, reveals that there are absolutes. There is One who is absolutely good and one who is absolutely evil. Fear is real and the enemy sidelines too many people using it.

Our family loves the Zach Williams' song "Fear is a Liar." We always listen to Christian radio in the car. And this song is one of our anthems. More than once while listening to it, I have told my family that we need to really listen to the words of the song and understand that fear is a liar.

We have many things we fear as a family. Individually, we have strongholds and barriers that the enemy uses against us on a regular basis. During these times, I try to remind myself and my kids to understand that those fears are lying to us. Those are words I too need to hear.

I think our challenge now is to do more than hear the words of the song (and the Scriptures). We need to turn that knowledge into heart-affirming truth. We need to cast away fear and live the lives that God intended for us to live. We need to be bold, strong, and courageous.

What about you? Do you need the reminder that God is with you? That you need not fear because you are His? That you are enough because He created you perfectly in His image?




Fear Is a Liar
When he told you you're not good enough
When he told you you're not right
When he told you you're not strong enough
To put up a good fight
When he told you you're not worthy
When he told you you're not loved
When he told you you're not beautiful
That you'll never be enough
Fear, he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
'Cause fear he is a liar
When he told you were troubled
You'll forever be alone
When he told you you should run away
You'll never find a home
When he told you you were dirty
And you should be ashamed
When he told you you could be the one
That grace could never change
Fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
'Cause fear he is a liar
Let Your fire fall and cast out all my fears
Let Your fire fall Your love is all I feel
Let Your fire fall and cast out all my fears
Let Your fire fall Your love is all I feel
Let Your fire fall and cast out all my fears
Let Your fire fall Your love is all I feel
Oh, let Your fire fall and cast out all my fears
Let Your fire fall Your love is all I feel
Oh, fear he is a liar
He will take your breath
Stop you in your steps
Fear he is a liar
He will rob your rest
Steal your happiness
Cast your fear in the fire
'Cause fear he is a liar
'Cause fear he is a liar
Songwriters: Jason Ingram / Zach Williams / Jonathan Lindley Smith
Fear Is a Liar lyrics © Sony/ATV Music Publishing LLC, Essential Music Publishing

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Adrift

Since it's a new year, I'm reading my Bible from the beginning again. I've read and preached from Genesis more times than I can name. God's word, however, is always fresh and alive. As I was reading the flood account, I was struck by this passage from Genesis 7:24-8:1.

"The water prevailed upon the earth one hundred fifty days. But God remembered Noah and all the beasts and all the cattle that were with him on the ark."

I've read the passage countless times. This time, however, I was struck by the seeming loneliness of the passage. Maybe it's because my family is experiencing a low time. Whatever the reason, I felt such a deep feeling of loneliness. I have always assumed that Noah and his family felt the presence of the Lord during the flood. As I read the passage from the NASB, I wondered: Did they feel alone? Did they feel God's presence? Or did they spend 150 days adrift -- listening fearfully to the constant pounding of the rain -- unsure if God would remember them?

Our family has experienced a long season of loneliness. There have been months on end where it seems that God has forgotten about us. It's difficult when you felt that you were once able to discern the voice of God, but now you feel radio silence.

I would like to say that we have responded to this season of silence in a dignified way -- trusting in God despite the silence. The truth, however, is that the silence has left us adrift. Much of the time, we have drifted away from God, and have been unable to trust in Him or his promises. Truthfully, we have completely ignored Him during this season of silence.

I draw new hope from this passage. I don't know if Noah and his family felt adrift, or forgotten, or lonely. I do know that the Bible says that "God remembered Noah." I am mindful that God never forgot Noah. I am cognizant that got has not forgotten me or my family. But, my heart has had trouble hanging on to that promise that He will not forget me nor forsake me (Deut. 31:8, Heb 13:5-6).





Monday, July 23, 2018

Contentment


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“I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need.” Philippians 4:11-12

We all know that we are to be content in what the Lord provides for us. We can even say that we are content in all circumstances. But, is this really true? In my life, I find that I struggle with contentment. I am on a quest to be content in what the Lord provides. It is not an easy journey.

I must admit that I am blessed with many things in life. I have a loving, supportive family. I have a job I love. I have good friends. I have a beautiful home and do not want for anything necessary for life. I live in a country with freedoms of speech, politics, and religion. I have never had to worry where the next meal is coming from, or if I can afford to go to the doctor. And I know that the majority of people in the world cannot make the same claims. So then, why does it seem that I struggle with contentment?


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I think a root cause is our basic human nature. How many proverbs speak of the better thing just around the corner? Our natural instinct is to want something different, something better, something just out of reach. Unfortunately, in our quest to get the next thing (whether it be a possession, a job, a prestigious position, etc.) we often turn our desire into an idol worthy of our best worship. One of the Ten Commandments is “you shall not covet.” God considers discontent as significant a character flaw as murder, stealing, and adultery. Yet, how often do I consider my covetousness as a primary offense against God?

So I am on a quest to be content in all circumstances. And I am not just speaking about contentment in monetary resources or possessions. I am talking about contentment with every circumstance in life. I often want to trade in my job, or my family, or my recreation for a different model or for an idealized model. If only I could get the kids to act in this way, then life would be great. If only I could get this task accomplished at work, then life would be grand. If only I had the time to exercise or prepare these healthy meals, then my life would be care-free. 

The awful truth is that my mind often dwells on the what-ifs or the could-bes in life. And every time I dwell on the what-ifs, my contentment level sinks. I start to blame circumstances, or people, or God for the “defects” in my life (if I only had more money, if she’d only be willing to, if God would do this, then …).

I am also on a quest to find the most utility in those possessions I have, and to seriously evaluate my need for those possessions. Is it appropriate to have as many clothes as I have? And if so, then am I content with that and am I thankful to God for His provision of those clothes? Do I really need all the things that I have? How can I show gratefulness for what I do have? How might I show greater appreciation for the things that God has graciously given me that are not possessions (family, education, time, good health, etc.) but are invaluable to my personal fulfillment?


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I often daydream about my garden. I think about what might be. I plan for what I might plant next season. I picture what crops we might harvest, or what flowers we might see next season. I know it’s a silly example, but this is really how my mind works. But, my dreams often turn into desires, and I will pursue my desires no matter what the cost. Am I willing to sacrifice time with my son and daughter so that I can get a pint of blueberries next season? Would I spend untold amounts of money on mail-order plants and seeds and neglect spending time or money on a ministry God has called me to pursue?

What is your daydream garden of discontent? What would you be willing to sacrifice in pursuit of that garden?

I would love to hear from you. Please feel free to leave a comment of email me at faithofthisfather@gmail.com.



Friday, July 13, 2018

Why Study 1 Samuel as a Family?


I am going to post a series of reflections/Bible studies on the book of 1 Samuel. Here are some reasons that this ancient book should be read and studied today.

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It Tells Stories of Family

The book of 1 Samuel tells the stories of priests and kings. It also tells the stories of families. Whether it is Hannah being bullied by her husband's other wife or the priest Eli confronting his wayward sons, the book describes family at its best and worst. I think it is important for Christian families to see these examples of faithful and unfaithful persons.

It Is an Engaging Read

We love to hear and read stories. My daughter and I are avid readers. My son and daughter enjoy reading the "I Survived" book series that tells stories of fictional characters in real-event settings. Everyone in our family enjoys a good tale. The book of 1 Samuel tells a great true story. It is filled with intrigue and some humor. There is a lot of dramatic tension among family members and among King Saul and David. There are giants, ghosts, villains and heroes. Who says the Bible is old, tired, and boring? 

It Shows Families Worshiping God

Hannah's prayer of praise is such a great example of worship. We also see other people worshiping God. The book shows us something that is rare in today's world, families who place God first and foremost in all they do. That's a great message for us to reflect on today.

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It Shows People at Their Best and Worst

I don't know about you, but I like to see authentic people. I don't like reading stories about perfect people. I cannot relate to them. Can you? First Samuel shows us real people at their best and worst. The priest Eli is a wonderful servant of God, but a terrible father. Saul is a king with great promise, and overwhelming fears. Jonathan is a great friend. David is a faithful follower of God (we read about his downfall in 2 Samuel). I can relate to the real people in this book, and so can my kids. 

It Proves that God is in Control

Throughout the book we see God at work through the people in the book. They are not perfect, and they make decisions that displease God, but God is always in control. God's hand is ever present in the lives of the people of this time. And if He was in control during this time, we can rest assured that he is in control today, even when personal circumstances seem overwhelming to us. 

Ready for the journey? Let's jump in to a family Bible study of 1 Samuel.


Tuesday, July 10, 2018

When the Wheels Fall Off: My Journey to Find God Again


What happens when everything in your world is turned upside down?

That's the question I have been asking and trying to answer for three years. It has been a dark time. It has been a time when I have turned away from God. I have been angry at Him, at my family, at people who hurt me deeply.

My family has suffered because I have not been able (or willing) to lead them. I have prayed that God would take my life to spare my family the burden of living with this broken man whom they call husband or father.

In time, I will share some of the events that led to this dark time. For now, it is enough to say that there are times in our Christian walk when we seem to be alone.


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The Downward Spiral

Three years ago, I had to give up a floundering ministry. There are a number of reasons for this, some of them I created, some of them were created by others. Today, I can look back at this time and declare that it was the best decision for me and my family. At the time, however, it was difficult and crippling. It shattered my confidence in myself and my God. I felt hopeless -- and useless. I was of no use to my family or to myself.

After spending half a year in the same town where I gave up the ministry, we had an opportunity to move. My wife got a job in a different state, and we packed our bags to start this new journey. It was so important for our family to get out of the place that had turned toxic for us. We did leave good friends and family when we moved, but a fresh start was best for us.

Unfortunately, when we moved, I carried those feelings of uselessness and inadequacy with me. We thought this would be a good opportunity for me to get back into ministry, but the shadows of the past haunted me. I felt like I was submerged to my shoulders in quicksand, about to go under and suffocate.


A Glimmer of Hope

There was one ray of hope during this time. Although it was difficult for me to attend church, or read my Bible, or pray, I was still able to listen to Christian music. In fact, my daughter (now 9-years-old) insisted that we listen to Christian radio in my car. While many parts of my soul were covered by darkness, the radio brought some hope.


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We listened to K-LOVE and other Christian stations. We listened to songs of hopefulness. We listened to songs of trust in the midst of despair. We listened to songs that uplifted us.

For three years, I have listened to Christian music daily. Each day, the lyrics would penetrate a small portion of my soul. There has been no dramatic, overnight change in me. The truth is I am still a long way from where I want to be in my spiritual pilgrimage. But, I am getting there.


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My greatest regret is that my family has suffered due to my inability to move on. I have not been able to lead my family, and we have all suffered greatly because of that. The road to spiritual healthiness will be a long one. I am sure there will be many bumps along the way. But, we must start down this road.


Where Do We Go From Here?

So what, you ask? Honestly, I am not really sure. I want to once again share our family's journey of faith. I want to share with you resources and insights from our Christian journey. I want this site to be a place where broken people can come, lean on each other, and press on.

We are in no way ready to show you a healthy, happy Christian family. We probably never were. I do think, however, that our many failings will make us better able to share a real and evolving faith.

So Faith of This Father is back. I plan to go through some old content and revise it. I plan to share our current journey. I plan on writing and sharing my personal journey to find God again (He never left, I just lost sight of Him) through Bible studies.

Please, let me know how I can help you. What would you like to see from Faith of This Father? Send me an email: faithofthisfather@gmail.com




Thursday, August 1, 2013

Spiritual Take-Aways from Our Summer of Fun

According to the calendar, there are still some summer days left. However, our children will be starting a new school year in a couple of weeks. And so, we are winding down from our summer of fun. My family has engaged in a number of activities and vacations this summer. We traveled to Southern California, Eastern Nevada, and Northwestern Colorado over the past three months. We have camped, seen plays, visited museums, seen and read about animals, and so much more. I have kept a list of those summer activities, but I have also been mentally recording some of the spiritual truths we have learned over this time. Here are some of those truths.

            The Bond of Family is Important. My wife, two children, and I spent a great deal of time together this summer. We also vacationed with both my parents and my in-laws. The kids got to meet extended family during this time, as well. We have bonded as a family, and we are closer today than we were at the start of the summer. Was it always easy to be together as a family? Heavens, no. We had arguments. We grew tired of being around each other. The kids were at times unruly. And there were times when I, too, was unruly. But, we did grow closer through it all (and found out more about each other than we may care to have known).

I have gained a greater appreciation for the importance of family. There are times when I desperately want to retreat from my family. But, I am so fond of them and truly enjoy being with them. In today’s hectic, fast-paced culture, it can be easy to be distant from family. Even when we are in the same room, we may be worlds away as we engage with our smart phones and tablets instead of the people sitting next to us. Many of our adventures kept us from those distracting elements. We camped in the mountains of Colorado, 9400 feet above sea level, with no electricity or running water. So, we spent time as a family. As we traveled to eastern Nevada, we traveled on the self-proclaimed “Loneliest Road in America.” In the middle of the desert, we entertained each other with conversation and music. In Southern California, we knew nobody, and relied on each other to get to the right location and to watch over each other.

            Sometimes, as I read the Bible, I too quickly pass over the passages dealing with the bond of family. I forget that Abraham, Jacob, David, and other biblical figures relied on family in ways that we do not today. I glance over the passages in which we are told that we are now part of God’s family, adopted children of the King. We are told that God is a nurturing and loving Father, who gives generously to His children as He protects and watches over them. As I watched my children place their trust in me and my wife in unfamiliar surroundings, those passages resonated in a new way. And those passages challenge me, too. Do I trust God in the way that my children trust in me when they are unsure of a situation or unsure of their surroundings?

            God Has Created a Multifaceted World that is Harmoniously United. We saw and experienced so much this summer. We saw the wonder of God’s natural creation. We got to see elk, deer, coyotes, and birds in their natural environs. We read about arctic seals, moose, and blue whales. We experienced the creative wonder of marvelous singers, actors, artists, and musicians. We experienced first-hand the diversity of our world. We were able to appreciate classical music, children’s music, folk music, rock, country, and ‘80s new wave music (my son became a fan). We saw classic art and modern art. One could argue that we experienced so many differences throughout the summer. But, I see the harmony in the midst of that diversity.

I think we experienced this most clearly on our camping trip. My son is beginning to understand cause and effect. He is beginning to understand the intricacy of the natural world. He sees how some animals feed off the land, while other animals feed off each other. And while that is sometimes difficult to explain, he does understand a sense of harmony in it all. While we may not completely understand the balance of the natural world, we appreciate it. Spiritually, I stand in awe of a God who does understand it well. I cannot understand how someone can see all the intricacies of the natural world and not see the hand of a marvelous Creator in it all. How can one witness the marvel of an opera voice, or a rock voice, or an accomplished harpist, or a spoken-word poet and not feel in her soul the workings of an Other? All of our diverse experiences led to many discussions in this vein. I think my kids have a sense of awe at the diversity and wonder of God’s creative force.

            Take Time to Pray. There were a couple of times when the only thing I knew to do was to pray for others. While traveling that “Loneliest Road in America” my kids and I saw the after effects of a roll-over car accident. When we passed the accident, paramedics were carrying a man on a stretcher to an emergency vehicle. I don’t know the extent of his injuries. I don’t know if there were others in the vehicle. My children were of course curious about the accident, asking what happened and if the man would be O.K. In honesty, I could not answer their questions, so I suggested we pray for him. And we did.

            On our final night of camping, the next camping spot was occupied by hard-drinking, foul-mouthed campers who were loud far beyond the quiet hour. They made our final night with my in-laws an unpleasant evening. As we left the campground the next day, my wife and I talked about the unpleasant evening, the campers disregard and disrespect for the other camper, and how it really affected our camping experience. Then, we decided that the best thing we could do was to pray for those campers. And we did.

            As I put my son to bed at night, I have heard him praying before he drifts off to sleep. He is five-years-old, so his prayers are often selfish. He often asks God for things that he wants, as if God is a magic genie. But, his prayers are sometimes right on target.  My son’s innocent prayers are a gentle reminder that I should take everything to my Father. And as he falls to sleep, I pray that he and his sister will someday place their faith in Jesus. I have no control over that, just as I had no control over the health of the roll-over victim or the neighbor campers, so I leave it in God’s hands.

            The Power of Death My son wanted to go fishing during our camping trip more than anything. He talked about fishing for quite some time. He always said we would catch our fish and eat our catch. But, when the time came to fish, the magnitude of death became real to him. It started as his Grampa hooked a worm to the fishing pole. My son realized that the worm would have to die in the course of the fishing. He was noticeably distraught about the worm losing its life. As a result, we had to ask Grampa to bait the hook with salmon eggs instead of worms (please don’t tell my son about the life inside a salmon egg!). And so, we transported a container of worms 1,000 miles to their new home in our vegetable garden. When we caught a fish, my son once again understood the gravity of the experience, and wanted the fish returned to the lake. So we had a catch and release fishing extravaganza.

Once he was faced with the reality of death, and his responsibility in that death, my son was very uncomfortable. I got to talk to him about the experience while the others continued fishing. I told him that it is a big deal that those animals would die, and that I could understand if he was not ready to be a part of their demise. Then he caught me off guard. He said that it was just like when Adam and Eve sinned and God let them kill animals so that Adam and Eve would have clothing to cover their nakedness. He made the connection between sin and death in a way that I would not have expected from a five-year-old. So, we took time to talk about that truth that humankind’s sin did bring about death. It was a great discussion. Will my sensitive son want to fish (or hunt) again? I don’t know. But, I thank God for the very powerful discussion my son and I got to have about sin and death.


What a fantastic summer. There is so much more that we have experienced, and so much more that I have learned. I am so grateful to God for His goodness and the gift of relationships.

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Thursday, July 18, 2013

A Summer Smorgasbord for the Senses.

My family is busier than ever this summer. We have a calendar jam-packed with events. This is the first summer break that my son has (he completed kindergarten this year), so I decided to pack as much adventure and learning into the summer as I could. We are doing the traditional summer activities (swimming, camping, running through the sprinklers, going to a baseball game, etc.). But, we also have filled the calendar with opportunities for our children to experience new and different things. Thankfully, we live in a region that has a plethora of free events. So, we have been able to go to art museums, science museums, symphony concerts, plays, and ballets for free. We have found many other low-cost forms of entertainment. Here are some of the things I have discovered during our summer smorgasbord for the senses.

            Kids are willing to try almost anything. I really didn’t think I would get much buy-in when I announced to my son that we would be going to his sister’s dance recital. I was surprised when he enjoyed it, and begged to go back after the intermission to watch the remainder of the show. My daughter surprised me when she enjoyed our trip to the state railroad museum. I think she could have sat in the caboose all day long. My children are five-years-old and three-years-old, so I did not expect a lot from them. But, I have been pleasantly surprised with their willingness to try some new things. Yes, there have been times when they have objected to going to events. But, in general, they have made the most of their time once we get to the events.

            But, don’t push them beyond what they can handle. There are times when I know that we have a limited time to experience events. I was pleased that my kids sat through twenty minutes of the symphony concert, but I know I couldn’t push them to do thirty minutes. Our visits to museums have seemed like whirlwind journeys, where we leave the museum behind in the flurry of our running through its halls. When we went to the art museum, I was able to ask my kids some very basic questions about some paintings, but I knew that I couldn’t push too much (and it certainly wasn’t time for a lecture on art history and different art movements). So, we are learning over the summer months, but not doing too much. Summer, after all, should afford a child opportunity to rest from study and have fun.

            Find some new things to learn in the old-tried-and-true. Yes, we went to the zoo. And, we also talked about why some animals are predatory and some are not (a topic that fascinates my son). When we go camping soon, we probably will look at the stars, and have an opportunity to talk about the planets, and maybe mention how historically people used the stars for direction. The yearly vegetable garden has given me an opportunity to talk about our senses and talk about how our bodies become healthy with good foods. At this stage in their lives, my kids are wildly inquisitive, so I seek opportunities to have small teaching moments as they ask question and wonder.

            I am learning much through these experiences, too. I don’t know much about dance, or symphonic music. Modern art seems pointless to me. I was at a loss for words while trying to describe a mirage to my son. How do you tell a five-year-old that his eyes are deceiving him? And how do you explain that there is a reason why his eyes are deceiving him with a mirage? We have attended many events that are not “my thing.” During these times, I am learning too, and finding a greater appreciation for stuff that isn’t “my thing.” Since I take the time to try to engage the kids in these events, I have had to learn a little about dance, art, symphonic music, trains, and other things. That has been good for me.


            We have many opportunities to show kids the creative power of God. Why did God create so many varieties of animals? Why are some plants helpful to humans and some dangerous? How many stars are there? Why is the universe so vast and different? Why are there so many varieties of wood, flowers, fauna, fish, etc.? Why are our bodies designed in such an intricate way? How can someone be so creative in an art form like watercolor painting, or tap dancing, or playing the French horn? Is it alright to marvel at an athlete’s physical prowess? As we have experienced such variety over the course of this summer, it has given us ample opportunities to talk about the creative wonders of God. My kids have a fuller appreciation for how wonderful His creation is and how amazing His creative powers are. This has been the most enjoyable part of our summer for me. I have had the joy of watching my children marvel in the majesty of God and learn about the variety of His creation.

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